How to Set the Right Expectations for Children

Setting high expectations has sparked a debate among parents. Some think that high expectations can cause detrimental effects to children. However, one study in Harvard shows better performance results from higher expectations in school. Children can also strive in sports or any activity that show progression.  There are ways to set high but right expectations for kids.

Make clear expectations

Children need to know what exactly their parents’ hope for them. For instance, a young girl thought her parents wanted her to be a lawyer. She believed that she caused disappointment to them when she chose another field. However, her parents just really wanted her to be in her field of interest. This shows that straightforward communication between parents and children is important.

Plan long-term goals, but concentrate on short term goals

It will be useless to plan long-term goals like university education if short-term goals are ignored. Talking about future plans on a daily basis and focusing on short-term objectives like getting a good score from a math quiz are the ways to go for parents.

Acknowledge achievements

When a simple victory is attained, celebrating it is essential. If you want your son to be a basketball player, recognize his success when he shoots a 3 pointer. This can give children the motivation to improve themselves further.

Learn how to handle setbacks

Parents should always set a good example to their children. How you handle difficulties in life will most likely be imitated by them. Showing them that these setbacks can be handled can make them go through the critical moments of their life.

Learn to adjust

There are times that our expectation becomes unreachable. You have to be willing to change it into something that is achievable. If you continued to hold on to it, it might give much disappointment, sadness, and pressure to your child.

Parents are the best support for their children. In every developmental stage, parents need to be on their children’s side. The expectations set should be a two-way street. This way, both the parents and the children can be happy.

Family Violence: You Can Stop It

Family violence refers to the abuse of power within the relationships in a family. It has many forms such as child abuse and neglect and spousal abuse. If you go through this, know someone who does, or like to learn more about this issue, you should continue reading. Here are some solutions to respond and prevent family violence.

Know the signs of family violence

No race or status is exempted in family violence. It can definitely happen to anyone any time. Therefore, you should be alert of these signs of an abuser:

  1. Excessively jealous and possessive
  2. Controlling all finances
  3. Giving you the guilt feeling all the time
  4. Destroying your properties intentionally
  5. Threatening to hurt you or your loved ones or threatening you with weapons

Obviously, physical attacks are not the only red flags for family violence. Someone might be suffering from it in silence. What you can do in this situation is to report it immediately to the authorities. Most people say they do not want to get involved, but you can save a life in doing so.

Educate the community

To eradicate family violence, one of the most effective ways is to make the issue known to the neighborhood and the entire community. Collaboration with Domestic Violence shelters, women’s welfare organizations, police officers, and the community, local schools, and companies can be done to arrange town hall meetings, seminars, or sessions to tackle this issue. It is not an individual problem, so the involvement of the community is vital.

Take advantage of technology

There are many smartphone applications that are designed for safety. The victim can automatically alert the support network of any abuse. There are safety applications that are free to download.

Be a good listener

For victims of abuse, they have the feelings of low self-esteem and isolation. Therefore, it is very important for you to lend an ear and believe. You have to let the victim feel that they are safe so that they can muster the courage to tell you everything and seek for help.

Check the victim

If you think someone close to you is in danger due to abuse, ensure that person’s safety by checking in regularly. You can call or text once a day. Offering some help like babysitting while the abuser is out can give relief to the victim.

In a nutshell, support is what all the victims need. Everyone can all do their part in preventing the abuse rates from going up.